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Bar & Bat Mitzvah

Bar/bat mitzvah means son/daughter of the covenant. It usually occurs on or after the thirteenth birthday of a young person.

At Havurah, we want to be sure b'nai mitzvah feel they are part of a community, which is why we require families to be members of Havurah Shalom for three full consecutive years prior to their child’s bar or bat mitzvah.

Though this may delay the bar or bat mitzvah until the young person is in his or her mid-teens, we believe it takes a foundation of time in order to build strong community ties and create significant relationships. A bar or bat mitzvah is a significant event in the life of a young person. Religiously, b'nai mitzvah are responsible for their moral actions. They also take their place of responsibility in the Jewish community by participating in Shabbat Services.

B’nai Mitzvah Workshops

Whose Bat or Bar Mitzvah is is it Anyway? **most appropriate for families with dates starting in 2018

How do parents with ranging degrees of familiarity with and/or attachment to Jewish tradition navigate planning a Bar or Bat Mitzvah? How do they create a meaningful experience for their teen? This will be led by Laura Orgel and Deborah Eisenbach-Budner. Wednesday, Nov. 8 at 7:00 pm

Writing Your Drash **most appropriate for families/kids with dates

Writing a drash is one of the most important parts of B’nai Mitzvah preparation. During this workshop, students with dates set for their B’nai Mitzvah will study a passage of Torah, discover commentary, pose an interesting question, and relate it to contemporary context. This workshop will be led by Rabbi Benjamin Barnett and Deborah Eisenbach-Budner. Wednesday, Dec. 6, 7:00 pm

Discovering Shabbat Morning **appropriate for any family with an upcoming Bar/Bat Mitzvah, 5th grade and up

At this workshop/learners minyan, we will walk through Shabbat morning for a Bar/Bat mitzvah and practice leading some of the prayers. We’ll talk about what goes into a B’nai Mitzvah service, including the Torah service, and we will practice some prayers together with youth participation. Childcare is available. Deborah Eisenbach-Budner and Susan Brenner will lead this workshop. Saturday, Jan. 27 and Saturday, March 10, 10:00  - 11:30 am

Getting Down to Tachlis (The Nitty Gritty: Logistics and Event Planning) **appropriate for families in the 2017-2018 cohort

The logistics of B’nai Mitzvah planning and set up at Havurah is the focus of this workshop. Parents will learn about reserving and using Havurah’s spaces and the items in them (like tables, plates, etc) from Havurah’s Office & Facilities Manager, Rachel Pollak. A new addition to this workshop is a deeper dive into “event planning,” led by Havurah member, Chari Smith. Saturday, Feb. 3, 3:15 to 4:15 pm

Bnai Mitzvah: Why, When, and How? (Workshop formerly known as Date Selection Meeting) **this is specifically for families in the 2019-2020 cohort and families who do not yet have a date

This workshop intends to launch families on the B’nai Mitzvah journey. Rabbi Benjamin will begin with a focus on the rite of passage itself, then families will learn about the date selection process. Rabbi Benjamin, David Newman, and Michael Evans will lead this workshop. Sunday, Feb. 4, 10:00 am to 12:15 pm

Please check our online calendar to confirm the above dates and times.


B'nai Mitzvah Schedule 2017-18

October 28, 2017 - Ari Mesulam

December 16, 2017 - Moriah Cordova

January 13, 2018 - Alex Joffe

February 17, 2018 - Olivia Silverman

March 3, 2018 - Yael Raider

March 17, 2018 - Serena Goldstone

March 24, 2018 - Elijah and Levi Edelman

April 14, 2018 - Jonas Frost-Hausman

April 28, 2018 - Samuel Plager

May 5, 2018 - Max Nudelman-Nellen

May 26, 2018 - Sylvie McCord

June 9, 2018 - Burke Reilly

June 16, 2018 - David Link

June 30, 2018 - Sadie Gavriela Drucker

July 21, 2018 - Mariela Rose Neiberg

August 4, 2018 - Chaim Gerber

August 18, 2018 - Asher Webb

August 25, 2018 - Ravi Jake Eisner

October 13, 2018 - Kabir Josse


Tue, January 16 2018 29 Tevet 5778