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Bar & Bat Mitzvah

Bar/bat mitzvah means son/daughter of the covenant. It usually occurs on or after the thirteenth birthday of a young person.

At Havurah, we want to be sure b'nai mitzvah feel they are part of a community, which is why we require families to be members of Havurah Shalom for three full consecutive years prior to their child’s bar or bat mitzvah.

Though this may delay the bar or bat mitzvah until the young person is in his or her mid-teens, we believe it takes a foundation of time in order to build strong community ties and create significant relationships. A bar or bat mitzvah is a significant event in the life of a young person. Religiously, b'nai mitzvah are responsible for their moral actions. They also take their place of responsibility in the Jewish community by participating in Shabbat Services.

B’nai Mitzvah Workshops for 2019-20

Drash Workshop
In this workshop, Rabbi Benjamin will guide students and parents in responding to the text with our own questions and learning how to craft a drash that connects Torah to our lives. 7-8:30 pm, Wednesday, Nov. 6

B’nei Mitzvah Cohort
Youths being called to the Torah this year will be building community together. Topics will include what Jewish tradition has to say about belief, identity and how we live our lives, as we each consider “What does being Jewish and becoming bar or bat mitzvah mean to me?” With Rabbi Benjamin. 6:30-8:30 pm, Wednesdays, Nov. 20, Dec. 4, 11, 18

B’nei Mitzvah Planning Logistics
Planning and setup at Havurah will be addressed by Rachel Pollak, Havurah’s Office and Facilities Manager. 7-8:30 pm, Wednesday, Nov. 20

B’nei Mitzvah Tips and Tricks
Every b’nei mitzvah is unique, and there are definitely pitfalls to avoid. Come learn as others who have walked the path more than once share their hard-won wisdom. 7-8:30 pm, Wednesday, Dec. 11

B’nei Mitzvah: Beginning the Journey/Date Selection
This workshop for parents intends to launch families on the b’nei mitzvah journey. We will focus on the rite of passage itself, then families will learn about the date selection process. Led by Rabbi Benjamin, Deborah Eisenbach-Budner and the B’nei Mitzvah Committee. 10-12 pm, Sunday, Feb. 23

Whose B'nei Mitzvah Is It Anyway?
Parents explore the hopes and fears that inspire, inform and complicate the planning process. Led by Deborah Eisenbach-Budner and Laura Orgel, psychologist and child/family therapist. 3-4:30 pm, Saturday, Apr. 25


Please check our online calendar to confirm the above dates and times.


B'nei Mitzvah Schedule 2020

January 18, 2020 - Nathaniel Shine

January 25, 2020 - Cora Paasch

March 14, 2020 - Noa Ziv

March 28, 2020 - Elliot Strom

April 4, 2020 - Saul Drucker

April 25, 2020 - Quinton and Abrianna Decker

May 2, 2020 - Gautam Josse

May 23, 2020 - Orion Segal

June 20, 2020 - Sophie Reilly

June 27, 2020 - Jonathan Williams

July 11, 2020 - Max Symmes

August 1, 2020 - Max Smith

August 22, 2020 - Evelyn Goldberg

August 29, 2020 - Quinley Wise

September 12, 2020 - Lucas Bader

October 24, 2020 - Jordan Devlin

October 31, 2020 - Ella Korin

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