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Bar & Bat Mitzvah

Bar/bat mitzvah means son/daughter of the covenant. It usually occurs on or after the thirteenth birthday of a young person.

At Havurah, we want to be sure b'nai mitzvah feel they are part of a community, which is why we require families to be members of Havurah Shalom for three full consecutive years prior to their child’s bar or bat mitzvah.

Though this may delay the bar or bat mitzvah until the young person is in his or her mid-teens, we believe it takes a foundation of time in order to build strong community ties and create significant relationships. A bar or bat mitzvah is a significant event in the life of a young person. Religiously, b'nai mitzvah are responsible for their moral actions. They also take their place of responsibility in the Jewish community by participating in Shabbat Services.

B’nai Mitzvah Workshops

Whose Bat or Bar Mitzvah is is it Anyway? **most appropriate for families with dates starting in 2018

How do parents with ranging degrees of familiarity with and/or attachment to Jewish tradition navigate planning a Bar or Bat Mitzvah? How do they create a meaningful experience for their teen? This will be led by Laura Orgel and Deborah Eisenbach-Budner. Wednesday, Nov. 8 at 7:00 pm

Writing Your Drash **most appropriate for families/kids with dates

Writing a drash is one of the most important parts of B’nai Mitzvah preparation. During this workshop, students with dates set for their B’nai Mitzvah will study a passage of Torah, discover commentary, pose an interesting question, and relate it to contemporary context. This workshop will be led by Rabbi Benjamin Barnett and Deborah Eisenbach-Budner. Wednesday, Dec. 6, 7:00 pm

Discovering Shabbat Morning **appropriate for any family with an upcoming Bar/Bat Mitzvah, 5th grade and up

At this workshop/learners minyan, we will walk through Shabbat morning for a Bar/Bat mitzvah and practice leading some of the prayers. We’ll talk about what goes into a B’nai Mitzvah service, including the Torah service, and we will practice some prayers together with youth participation. Childcare is available. Deborah Eisenbach-Budner and Susan Brenner will lead this workshop. Saturday, Jan. 27 and Saturday, March 10, 10:00  - 11:30 am

Getting Down to Tachlis (The Nitty Gritty: Logistics and Event Planning) **appropriate for families in the 2017-2018 cohort

The logistics of B’nai Mitzvah planning and set up at Havurah is the focus of this workshop. Parents will learn about reserving and using Havurah’s spaces and the items in them (like tables, plates, etc) from Havurah’s Office & Facilities Manager, Rachel Pollak. A new addition to this workshop is a deeper dive into “event planning,” led by Havurah member, Chari Smith. Saturday, Feb. 3, 3:15 to 4:15 pm

Bnai Mitzvah: Why, When, and How? (Workshop formerly known as Date Selection Meeting) **this is specifically for families in the 2019-2020 cohort and families who do not yet have a date

This workshop intends to launch families on the B’nai Mitzvah journey. Rabbi Benjamin will begin with a focus on the rite of passage itself, then families will learn about the date selection process. Rabbi Benjamin, David Newman, and Michael Evans will lead this workshop. Sunday, Feb. 4, 10:00 am to 12:15 pm

Please check our online calendar to confirm the above dates and times.


B'nai Mitzvah Schedule 2018-20

May 5, 2018 - Max Nudelman-Nellen

May 26, 2018 - Sylvie McCord

June 9, 2018 - Burke Reilly

June 16, 2018 - David Link

June 30, 2018 - Sadie Gavriela Drucker

July 21, 2018 - Mariela Rose Neiberg

August 4, 2018 - Chaim Gerber

August 18, 2018 - Asher Webb

August 25, 2018 - Ravi Jake Eisner

September 1, 2018 - Aviv Ross

September 29, 2018 - Charlie Kirschner

October 6, 2018 - Kai Paasch

October 13, 2018 - Kabir Josse

December 22, 2018 - Etienne Timmons

January 5, 2019 - Hamilton Chapin Fish

February 16, 2019 - Ethan Berkson-Klaus

March 23, 2019 - Isaac Benjamin Cissna

March 30, 2019 - Isaac Levi Bechtel

April 13, 2019 - Amaya Korin

May 4, 2019 - Eliza Kerstetter

May 11, 2019 - Maxwell Jablonski

May 25, 2019 - Daphne Shreve

May 25, 2019 - Sarah Shreve

June 1, 2019 - Spencer Litwin

June 15, 2019 - Solomon Barnett

June 22, 2019 - Arava Barnett

June 29, 2019 - Nathan Merrill

July 6, 2019 - Maddie Teitelman

July 20, 2019 - Milo Schwartz

July 27, 2019 - Enzo Renato Gutierrez

August 17 2019 - Frances Springgate

October 19, 2019 - Sam Waxman

October 26, 2019 - Bennet Miller

December 7, 2019 - Levi Mandelsberg

January 18, 2020 - Sarah Shine

January 25, 2020 - Cora Paasch

April 4, 2020 - Saul Drucker

April 25, 2020 - Abrianna Decker

May 2, 2020 - Gautam Josse

May 23, 2020 - Orion Segal

June 20, 2020 - Sophie Reilly

June 27, 2020 - Henry Anderson-Stern

July 11, 2020 - Max Symmes

July 25, 2020 - Lucas Bader

August 1, 2020 - Max Smith

August 22, 2020 - Evelyn Goldberg

August 29, 2020 - Quinley Wise

Sat, July 21 2018 9 Av 5778