Bar & Bat Mitzvah
Bar & Bat Mitzvah
Bar/bat mitzvah means son/daughter of the covenant. It usually occurs on or after the 13th birthday of a young person. At Havurah, we aim to help the bar/t mitzvah student feel that s/he is a true part of a community. One way of helping this to happen is the B’nai Mitzvah Committee requires a family to be a member of Havurah Shalom for three full consecutive years prior to their child’s bar/t mitzvah.
Some may wonder about such a requirement, especially if it causes a delay in the bar/t mitzvah until the youth may be in her/his mid-teens. However, we believe it takes a foundation of time in order to build strong community ties and create significant relationships. If you’ve ever been to a bar/t mitzvah at Havurah Shalom, you can witness the difference. The bar/t mitzvah is a significant event in the life of a young person. Religiously, they are a new young adult, and are responsible for their moral actions. They also take their place of responsibility in the Jewish community by participating in Shabbat Services. Havurah’s recognition of the significance of this event solidify’s our commitment to avoid “drive-thru” bar/t mitzvahs. We hope you will visit us and see the difference for yourself!
- Deborah Eisenbach-Budner’s Illustrated Guide to a Shabbat Morning Service (PDF)
- Order of Service Chart (PDF) – This valuable chart walks you through each part of the Shabbat morning service, including page numbers in the siddur, and commentary to give direction as to who may lead the various prayers. This chart is a companion to the two disk CD set of the complete Shabbat morning service by Michele Goldschmidt. You may obtain these from the Havurah office.
- Additional Guidelines (PDF) for when your bar/bat mitzvah falls on a Shabbat School date
- Frequently Asked Qustions (FAQs) (PDF)
- Current B’nai Mitzvah Parent Handbook (PDF)
- For an updated musicians list and tutor list, contact the Havurah office at 503-248-4662.
B’nai Mitzvah Workshops
B’nai/B’not Mitzvah Date Selection Workshop
Gather with other parents, Rabbi Joey, and the B’nai Mitzvah Committee, to consider what this life-cycle process means to your family, and learn about becoming a B’nai/B’not Mitzvah in the Havurah community. You will receive information about selecting a Shabbat date for your child’s Bar/Bat Mitzvah.
Navigating the Shabbat Morning Service for B’nai/B’not Mitzvah Families
Roger Brewer will lead families through the structure and meaning of the service and discuss how each family makes decisions about the service that they will help shape.
Drash Writing for B'nai/B'not Mitzvah Families
Writing a drash is one of the most important parts of Bat/Bar Mitzvah preparation. In this workshop, you will study a passage of Torah, discover a commentary, pose an interesting question and relate it to your contemporary context.
Getting Down to Tachlis (the Nitty Gritty) For Grades 6–8 B’nai/B’not Mitzvah Families
The logistics of planning, celebration, invitations and set-up will be addressed by Rachel Palmer and members of the B’nai Mitzvah Committee. This workshop is offered twice during the year.
Whose Bar or Bat Mitzvah is it Anyway?
How do parents with ranging degrees of familiarity with and/or attachment to Jewish
tradition navigate planning a Bar or Bat Mitzvah? How do they create a meaningful
experience for their teen? Led by Deborah Eisenbach-Budner & Laura Orgel.
Please check our online calendar for upcoming workshops.
B'nai Mitzvah Schedule 2017
January 14 - Owen Jablonski
January 28 - Jasmine Ilsley
March 18 - Jesse Litwin
March 25 - Audrey Landau
April 1 - Beryl Eisenberg
April 29 - Lirit Miller
June 10 - Matreya Barnett
June 17 - Maia Goldberg
July 8 - Isaac Kerstetter
July 22 - Miles Smith
August 5 - Jacob Wice-Budner
October 28 - Ari Mesulam
December 16 - Moriah Cordova