B'nei Mitzvah
B'nei Mitzvah
Having a B'nei Mitzvah is an experience in community. It is a statement that one is now ready to participate in the Jewish community as an adult. Havurah Shalom is built upon the active participation of all its members. We believe in passing on Jewish tradition to our children while continuing to learn ourselves.
In order to be true to these beliefs, the congregation requires timely active membership prior to this important family life cycle passage of is B’nei Mitzvah. A period of membership provides the opportunity for new member families to become part of the Havurah community so their child comes of age in an ongoing community and the family is held in this life passage.
Though this may delay the bar or bat mitzvah until the young person is in his or her mid-teens, we believe it takes a foundation of time in order to build strong community ties and create significant relationships. A B'nei Mitzvah is a significant event in the life of a young person. Religiously, B'nei Mitzvah are responsible for their moral actions. They also take their place of responsibility in the Jewish community by participating in Shabbat Services.
B’nei Mitzvah Workshops for 2020
B’nei Mitzvah: Beginning the Journey/Date Selection
Sunday, Feb. 23, 10am-12pm
This workshop for parents intends to launch families on the b’nei mitzvah journey. We will focus on the rite of passage itself, then families will learn about the date selection process. Led by Rabbi Benjamin, Deborah Eisenbach-Budner and the B’nei Mitzvah Committee.
Whose B'nei Mitzvah Is It Anyway?
Saturday, April 25, 3pm-4:30pm
Parents explore the hopes and fears that inspire, inform and complicate the planning process. Led by Deborah Eisenbach-Budner and Laura Orgel, psychologist and child/family therapist.
Please check our online calendar to confirm the above dates and times.
Resources
- B’nei Mitzvah Handbook (PDF, updated May 2020)
- Additional Guidelines (PDF) for when your bar/bat mitzvah falls on a Shabbat School date
- Tutors & Musicians: For a current list, contact Rachel in the Havurah office at 503-248-4662 ext. 2.
Saturday Morning
- Order of Service – This valuable, editable chart walks you through each part of the Shabbat morning service, including page numbers in the siddur and suggestions for who can lead the various prayers. The chart is a companion to the music Havurah provides to B'nei Mitzvah.
- Deborah Eisenbach-Budner’s Illustrated Guide to a Shabbat Morning Service (PDF)
- Being called up for an aliyah is an honor. These are the words to the blessings before and after a Torah reading. You can listen to recordings of the blessings below:
- Goleil Instructions - The Goleil or Gelilah dresses the Torah when a reading is done.
- Magbiah Instructions - The Magbiah lifts the Torah scroll after the reading.
- Sample Letter for Aliyah Invite & Other Honorees
Who Should I Contact?
Membership
Brad Pector, Communications & Membership Coordinator, brad@havurahshalom.org
B'nei Mitzvah Date Selection or Changes
Amanda Coffey & Constance Plager, B'nei Mitzvah Committee co-chairs
Tutors & Musicians
Rabbi Benjamin Barnett, benjamin.barnett@havurahshalom.org
Facility Use & Logistics
Rachel Pollak, Facilities & Office Manager, rachel@havurahshalom.org
Mitzvah Project
Laura Orgel, B'nei Mitzvah Committee member
Questions Related to Family Dynamics & Learning Needs
Deborah Eisenbach-Budner, Education Director, deborah@havurahshalom.org
Rabbi Benjamin Barnett, benjamin.barnett@havurahshalom.org
B'nei Mitzvah Schedule
Click here to see our 2020-2021 B'nei Mitzvah schedule (login required).
Thu, March 4 2021
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Upcoming Events
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Thursday ,
MarMarch 4 , 2021Beginning Conversational Hebrew
Thursday, Mar 4th 7:00p to 8:00p
Would you like to improve your ability to speak conversational Hebrew? Can you already read Hebrew but don't always know what you're reading? Did you take Hebrew lessons ages ago or did you participate in an Ulpan experience in Israel but have forgotten all you learned? Would you like to laugh and learn with fellow Havurahniks? Come join Racheli Ross as she continues a beginning Hebrew class in which the focus is on functional Hebrew conversations and vocabulary development. Thursdays, 7-8:00 pm, with an optional 8-8:30 practice session, starting on January 14, and continuing until March 18. This will be in Zoom Room Heh. -
Thursday ,
MarMarch 4 , 2021Writer’s Workshop (for Non-Writers!)
Thursday, Mar 4th 7:00p to 9:00p
Have you thought about trying to write prose? Do you want to try with others? This year’s Havurah Adult Writers Workshop (for Non-Writers!) begins January 14 and continues for the next 7 Thursdays, through March 4. The workshop is for anyone who wants to explore prose writing – and is NOT a published writer or working on a big writing project. The focus is memoir writing generated through reflection, engaging prompts, discussion and feedback. While the Jewish experience often comes up in memoir writing in a Jewish community, our focus is the writer’s personal exploration from any perspective. Participants develop one piece from the workshop and may choose to read at a culminating Friday Oneg Reading for the Havurah community. Led by David Kertzner. Group size limited to 8. -
Thursday ,
MarMarch 4 , 2021The Torah of Our Lives: Havurah Spiritual Writing Group
Thursday, Mar 4th 7:00p to 9:00p
Have you ever wanted to explore stories in Torah and use the writing process to personally understand the significance of Torah stories in your life? Join a small group of Havurahniks to delve into Torah using the writing process to explore and record our journey. Each evening will include a summary of that week's Torah portion and pearls from commentary. We will then begin two free-writes from prompts from the portion. All that is required is a journal. There is an optional opportunity to choose one portion to study, summarize and use to create writing prompts. Facilitated by Harriet Cooke and Jenni Besen. Harriet trained and led groups with Portland's Write Around Portland, then led an eight-year writing group on Torah. 10-person maximum. -
Friday ,
MarMarch 5 , 2021HIAS Refugee Shabbat
Friday, Mar 5th 7:00p to 8:00p
Havurah Shalom will participate in HIAS’ Refugee Shabbat, during which Jews in the United States and around the world will take action for refugees and asylum seekers. Please join Rabbi Benjamin, Leah Shoshanna and community members for services on Friday, March 5 at 7 pm as we integrate themes of refugees and asylum seekers into the readings, prayers and music of our service, and learn how we can take action. -
Saturday ,
MarMarch 6 , 2021Community Minyan
Shabbat, Mar 6th 10:00a to 11:30a
Join us for an uplifting morning service. For the time being, all services will take place on Zoom in Room Aleph. Please contact the office to connect: info@havurahshalom.org. -
Saturday ,
MarMarch 6 , 2021Shabbat School
Shabbat, Mar 6th 3:00p to 5:15p
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Saturday ,
MarMarch 6 , 2021Community Havdallah
Shabbat, Mar 6th 5:00p to 5:15p
Join Shabbat School for a community celebration of Havdallah, led by Leah Shoshanah, Rabbi Benjamin and Deborah Eisenbach-Budner in Room Aleph. -
Saturday ,
MarMarch 6 , 2021Grade 5 Kehillah Night
Shabbat, Mar 6th 5:30p to 8:30p
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Saturday ,
MarMarch 6 , 2021Q&A with the filmmakers of "A Kaddish for Bernie Madoff"
Motzei Shabbat, Mar 6th 8:30p to 9:30p
A Kaddish for Bernie Madoff, the acclaimed one-woman show by Alicia Jo Rabins, has been adapted into a film, to be featured in Portland International Film Festival. Join us as Havurah Shalom hosts the Jewish community in a talk-back and Q&A with Alicia Jo and her director, Alicia J. Rose! To participate, purchase a ticket through PIFF for virtual viewing. The film will be available to you Friday, March 5, to Sunday, March 14. Consider watching it individually or in a group you organize at 7 pm on March 6, then join our Havurah-hosted Zoom Room at 8:30 pm for the talkback. RSVP below. Zoom join info will be included in your confirmation email. Questions? Email info@havurahshalom.org. -
Sunday ,
MarMarch 7 , 2021Weekend in Quest
Sunday, Mar 7th 11:00a to 2:00p
Free with registration—This year’s program has shifted to a webinar format with Scholar in Residence Stav Meishar. The true stories of Jewish circus artists between the world wars are told with sensitivity and humor by Stav Meishar, a circus artist and academic. The lecture is based on over seven years of extensive research and combines photos from personal albums, recorded testimonies, and personal stories. Additionally, Meishar will present excerpts from her show "The Escape Act", based on one of the stories she uncovered–that of a Jewish acrobat who survived the Holocaust hiding in a German circus. Stav Meishar is a theatre maker, multidisciplinary performer, academic researcher and educator, working across circus, theatre, and contemporary performance. Register for Weekend in Quest at OJMCHE website. Within 24 hours after registering, participants will be sent a list of links to background articles and information to review prior to the program. 2021 Weekend in Quest is a free virtual program that honors the roots of the program as a Shabbaton Study Weekend.