B'nei Mitzvah
B'nei Mitzvah
Having a B'nei Mitzvah is an experience in community. It is a statement that one is now ready to participate in the Jewish community as an adult. Havurah Shalom is built upon the active participation of all its members. We believe in passing on Jewish tradition to our children while continuing to learn ourselves.
In order to be true to these beliefs, the congregation requires timely active membership prior to this important family life cycle passage of is B’nei Mitzvah. A period of membership provides the opportunity for new member families to become part of the Havurah community so their child comes of age in an ongoing community and the family is held in this life passage.
Though this may delay the bar or bat mitzvah until the young person is in his or her mid-teens, we believe it takes a foundation of time in order to build strong community ties and create significant relationships. A B'nei Mitzvah is a significant event in the life of a young person. Religiously, B'nei Mitzvah are responsible for their moral actions. They also take their place of responsibility in the Jewish community by participating in Shabbat Services.
B’nei Mitzvah Workshops for 2020
B’nei Mitzvah: Beginning the Journey/Date Selection
Sunday, Feb. 23, 10am-12pm
This workshop for parents intends to launch families on the b’nei mitzvah journey. We will focus on the rite of passage itself, then families will learn about the date selection process. Led by Rabbi Benjamin, Deborah Eisenbach-Budner and the B’nei Mitzvah Committee.
Whose B'nei Mitzvah Is It Anyway?
Saturday, April 25, 3pm-4:30pm
Parents explore the hopes and fears that inspire, inform and complicate the planning process. Led by Deborah Eisenbach-Budner and Laura Orgel, psychologist and child/family therapist.
Please check our online calendar to confirm the above dates and times.
Resources
- B’nei Mitzvah Handbook (PDF, updated May 2020)
- Additional Guidelines (PDF) for when your bar/bat mitzvah falls on a Shabbat School date
- Tutors & Musicians: For a current list, contact Rachel in the Havurah office at 503-248-4662 ext. 2.
Saturday Morning
- Order of Service – This valuable, editable chart walks you through each part of the Shabbat morning service, including page numbers in the siddur and suggestions for who can lead the various prayers. The chart is a companion to the music Havurah provides to B'nei Mitzvah.
- Deborah Eisenbach-Budner’s Illustrated Guide to a Shabbat Morning Service (PDF)
- Being called up for an aliyah is an honor. These are the words to the blessings before and after a Torah reading. You can listen to recordings of the blessings below:
- Goleil Instructions - The Goleil or Gelilah dresses the Torah when a reading is done.
- Magbiah Instructions - The Magbiah lifts the Torah scroll after the reading.
- Sample Letter for Aliyah Invite & Other Honorees
Who Should I Contact?
Membership
Brad Pector, Communications & Membership Coordinator, brad@havurahshalom.org
B'nei Mitzvah Date Selection or Changes
Amanda Coffey & Constance Plager, B'nei Mitzvah Committee co-chairs
Tutors & Musicians
Rabbi Benjamin Barnett, benjamin.barnett@havurahshalom.org
Facility Use & Logistics
Rachel Pollak, Facilities & Office Manager, rachel@havurahshalom.org
Mitzvah Project
Laura Orgel, B'nei Mitzvah Committee member
Questions Related to Family Dynamics & Learning Needs
Deborah Eisenbach-Budner, Education Director, deborah@havurahshalom.org
Rabbi Benjamin Barnett, benjamin.barnett@havurahshalom.org
B'nei Mitzvah Schedule 2020-21
| 6/20/2020 | Sophie Reilly | |
| 6/27/2020 | Jonathan Williams | |
| 7/11/2020 | Max Symmes | |
| 8/1/2020 | Max Smith | |
| 8/22/2020 | Evelyn Goldberg | |
| 8/29/2020 | Quinley Wise | |
| 9/5/2020 | Priscilla Aliyar | |
| 9/12/2020 | Lucas Bader | |
| 10/31/2020 | Ella Korin | |
| 11/14/2020 | Louisa (LuLu) Way | |
| 11/28/2020 | Eitan Feder | |
| 1/6/2021 | Ariel Carroll | |
| 1/30/2021 | Logan Mafchir-Werth | |
| 2/13/2021 | Mathew Ory | |
| 2/27/2021 | Lee Cogan | |
| 3/20/2021 | Sanna Berkson-Klaus | |
| 4/10/2021 | Simon Ilsley | |
| 4/24/2021 | Uziel Lamanet | |
| 5/8/2021 | Noah Karoli | |
| 5/15/2021 | Rose Bobowick Veneklase | |
| 6/12/2021 | Judah Barnett | |
| 6/26/2021 | RozaBess Eisenbach-Budner | |
| 7/3/2021 | Rami Mandelsberg | |
| 7/17/2021 | Ella Bendsneyder-Koven | |
| 7/24/2021 | Ezra Webb | |
| 8/7/2021 | Valor Goldstone | |
| 8/21/2021 | Harry Friedman | |
| 8/28/2021 | Jordan Devlin | |
| 10/2/2021 | Sophie Nathe | |
| 10/16/2021 | Leyah Boussi | |
| 10/23/2021 | Shani Ross |
Sat, November 28 2020
12 Kislev 5781
Upcoming Events
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Sunday ,
NovNovember 29 , 2020Hanukah Song Share with Leah Shoshanah and the Havurah Music Collective
Sunday, Nov 29th 4:30p to 6:00p
Join our Music Coordinator, Leah Shoshanah and musicians from the Havurah Musician’s Collective for an evening of learning and sharing songs. This month, our theme focuses on the upcoming holiday of Hanukah. We will be sharing songs of resilience, justice and light that run the gamut of genres, as well as Hanukah classics. We will provide song sheets, chord sheets and a brief singing/playing tutorial so that folks can continue playing these songs in their own homes. While not a kid-focused event, this is a kid-friendly event, and we encourage families to join us. -
Monday ,
NovNovember 30 , 2020Transfers of Power in Tanach: How do they happen, who wins or loses, and why
Monday, Nov 30th 3:00p to 4:00p
As we experience our own election cycle and all of the attendant trauma and drama (where the stakes have never, in our lifetimes, appeared to be higher), what can our sources and sages teach us to help us navigate these times??? Our class will begin with some of the transfers of power in Genesis, move on to Exodus, make a brief stop in Numbers, and finally end with Hanukkah. RSVP to receive precise references. Taught by Emily Simon. This class takes place in Zoom Room Bet. Please login to the website or find the weekly email for the Zoom link. -
Tuesday ,
DecDecember 1 , 2020HCAT Meeting
Tuesday, Dec 1st 7:00p to 8:30p
Monthly meeting of the HCAT. Zoom available! -
Tuesday ,
DecDecember 1 , 2020BIPOC Community Meet-Up
Tuesday, Dec 1st 7:00p to 8:30p
If you identify as Black, Indigenous, or other person of color, we hope you will join us. This will be a casual get together with the sole purpose of listening to, learning from, and supporting one another. This meeting requires no ongoing commitment. Please RSVP here, or just show up. If you're unable to make it but like this idea, or have other ideas as a BIPOC community member, please contact Yshai at yshaib@gmail.com. This will take place in Zoom Room Gimel. -
Wednesday ,
DecDecember 2 , 2020Middle School
Wednesday, Dec 2nd 6:30p to 8:30p
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Wednesday ,
DecDecember 2 , 2020High School
Wednesday, Dec 2nd 6:30p to 8:30p
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Wednesday ,
DecDecember 2 , 2020The Torah of Our Lives: Havurah Spiritual Writing Group
Wednesday, Dec 2nd 7:00p to 9:00p
Have you ever wanted to explore stories in Torah and use the writing process to personally understand the significance of Torah stories in your life? Join a small group of Havurahniks to delve into Torah using the writing process to explore and record our journey. Each evening will include a summary of that week's Torah portion and pearls from commentary. We will then begin two free-writes from prompts from the portion. All that is required is a journal. There is an optional opportunity to choose one portion to study, summarize and use to create writing prompts. Facilitated by Harriet Cooke and Jenni Besen. Harriet trained and led groups with Portland's Write Around Portland, then led an eight-year writing group on Torah. 10-person maximum. This class takes place in Zoom Room Gimel. Please see the weekly Hineinu newsletter for the link. -
Thursday ,
DecDecember 3 , 2020Interfaith Alliance on Poverty Monthly Meeting
Thursday, Dec 3rd 12:00p to 1:30p
Imagine a place where everyone has an opportunity to succeed! Imagine a place where social and economic justice rules! Imagine a place where the past injustice is acknowledged and ameliorated by the future! Let’s help to create that community by joining those who aim to “Reimagine Oregon” Recognizing that systemic racism is a clear and persistent root cause of poverty in communities of color, the Alliance formed a small team to explore the project’s mission, focus, and specific strategies, including legislative proposals. And now, the team brings its conclusions and its strategies for Alliance action in support of the project to our “First Thursday” meeting on December 3. Interested? Contact Gloria Halper OR Steve Rudman. -
Thursday ,
DecDecember 3 , 2020Beginning Conversational Hebrew
Thursday, Dec 3rd 7:00p to 8:15p
Can you read Hebrew and the siddur? Do you understand some of the words? If so, would you like to be able to actually use the language in basic conversations with others? This class is for those of you who can already read Hebrew and have a very beginning knowledge of the language but want to expand your vocabulary in order to hold a conversation. We will spend time each week practicing new vocabulary in a fun, casual environment. There will be online homework and then weekly practice sessions led by Racheli Ross. This class takes place in Zoom Room Bet. Please see the weekly Hineinu newsletter for the link. -
Thursday ,
DecDecember 3 , 2020Drop-in Grief Support Group
Thursday, Dec 3rd 7:00p to 8:30p
As we approach the winter holidays, especially in this time of COVID, Havurah Shalom supports members grieving a death. Drop-in grief group sessions are facilitated by Havurah Shalom members experienced in grief support and confidential group facilitation. Pre-registration is required by Thursday noon the day of each session. Each session is limited to 10 people. Additional details will be sent to those registered. For more information, contact Tivona Reith at bikkurholim@havurahshalom.org.