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B'nei Mitzvah

Having a B'nei Mitzvah is an experience in community. It is a statement that one is now ready to participate in the Jewish community as an adult. Havurah Shalom is built upon the active participation of all its members. We believe in passing on Jewish tradition to our children while continuing to learn ourselves.

In order to be true to these beliefs, the congregation requires timely active membership prior to this important family life cycle passage of is B’nei Mitzvah. A period of membership provides the opportunity for new member families to become part of the Havurah community so their child comes of age in an ongoing community and the family is held in this life passage.

Though this may delay the bar or bat mitzvah until the young person is in his or her mid-teens, we believe it takes a foundation of time in order to build strong community ties and create significant relationships. A B'nei Mitzvah is a significant event in the life of a young person. Religiously, B'nei Mitzvah are responsible for their moral actions. They also take their place of responsibility in the Jewish community by participating in Shabbat Services.

B’nei Mitzvah Workshops for 2020

B’nei Mitzvah: Beginning the Journey/Date Selection
Sunday, Feb. 23, 10am-12pm
This workshop for parents intends to launch families on the b’nei mitzvah journey. We will focus on the rite of passage itself, then families will learn about the date selection process. Led by Rabbi Benjamin, Deborah Eisenbach-Budner and the B’nei Mitzvah Committee.

Whose B'nei Mitzvah Is It Anyway?
Saturday, April 25, 3pm-4:30pm
Parents explore the hopes and fears that inspire, inform and complicate the planning process. Led by Deborah Eisenbach-Budner and Laura Orgel, psychologist and child/family therapist.

Please check our online calendar to confirm the above dates and times.


  • B’nei Mitzvah Handbook  (PDF, updated May 2020)
  • Additional Guidelines (PDF) for when your bar/bat mitzvah falls on a Shabbat School date
  • Tutors & Musicians: For a current list, contact Rachel in the Havurah office at 503-248-4662 ext. 2.

Saturday Morning

Who Should I Contact?


Brad Pector, Communications & Membership Coordinator,

B'nei Mitzvah Date Selection or Changes

Amanda Coffey & Constance Plager, B'nei Mitzvah Committee co-chairs

Tutors & Musicians

Rabbi Benjamin Barnett,

Facility Use & Logistics

Rachel Pollak, Facilities & Office Manager,

Mitzvah Project

Laura Orgel, B'nei Mitzvah Committee member

Questions Related to Family Dynamics & Learning Needs

Deborah Eisenbach-Budner, Education Director,
Rabbi Benjamin Barnett,

B'nei Mitzvah Schedule 2020-21

June 20, 2020   Sophie Reilly
June 27, 2020   Jonathan Williams
July 11, 2020   Max Symmes
August 1, 2020   Max Smith
August 22, 2020   Evelyn Goldberg
August 29, 2020   Quinley Wise
September 5, 2020   Priscilla Aliyar
September 12, 2020   Lucas Bader
October 24, 2020   Jordan Devlin
October 31, 2020   Ella Korin
November 14, 2020   Louisa (LuLu) Way
November 28, 2020   Eitan Feder
January 6, 2021   Ariel Carroll
January 30, 2021   Logan Mafchir-Werth
February 13, 2021   Mathew Ory
February 27, 2021   Lee Cogan
March 20, 2021   Sanna Berkson-Klaus
April 10, 2021   Simon Ilsley
April 24, 2021   Uziel Lamanet
May 8, 2021   Noah Karoli
May 15, 2021   Rose Bobowick Veneklase
June 12, 2021   Judah Barnett
June 26, 2021   RozaBess Eisenbach-Budner
July 3, 2021   Rami Mandelsberg
July 17, 2021   Ella Bendsneyder-Koven
July 24, 2021   Ezra Webb
August 7, 2021   Valor Goldstone
August 21, 2021   Harry Friedman
October 2, 2021   Sophie Nathe
October 16, 2021   Leyah Boussi
October 23, 2021   Shani Ross
Thu, July 9 2020 17 Tammuz 5780