End of Life
End of Life
Approaching the end of life, whether for yourself or a loved one, can be a painful, complicated process. Havurah Shalom is here for members undergoing this difficult transition. We offer support through pastoral counseling and grief groups. Whether preparing ahead or nearing that time, our Cemetery Committee will help you select a grave and ensure the preparations are made.
In the Event of a Death
Planning Ahead
The Havurah Shalom Cemetery is a beautiful hilltop space with trees and a view of the valley below. We encourage families to purchase plots well ahead of time to reduce stress later on. To tour the cemetery and purchase a plot, please reach out to staff by calling (503) 248-4662, ext. 2. For more information on the cemetery, see below.
Funeral Services
Havurah works closely with Holman’s Funeral Service to coordinate funerals at our cemetery. Holman's is located at 2610 SE Hawthorne Blvd. You can call (503) 232-5131 to make arrangements or to learn about preplanning to make the end of life less stressful.
These are some helpful resources for making burial arrangements:
Here are policies that govern the Havurah Cemetery:
Tahara (Preparing the Body)
If this traditional pre-burial ritual is desired, Chevra Kavod haMet is a chevra kadisha for several Jewish communities in the Portland area, and they work frequently with Holman’s Funeral Service. A chevra kadisha is a group of men and a group of women who perform the traditional Jewish ritual of tahara, or preparing individuals for burial. This service is one of chesed shel emet, or ultimate kindness. In order to maintain the dignity of the one who has died, the ritual is performed by chevra members who are the same gender as the deceased. If someone was gender non-conforming, or if the wishes of the deceased are not known, a mixed gender team will perform tahara for them. Respect for the deceased is the utmost value. Your funeral director, particularly at Holman’s, will inquire about having tahara done; no need to reach out to Chevra Kavod haMet directly.
Yahrzeits
Kaddish is recited at all Havurah Shalom services. Please check the calendar to see service times. By adding your loved one's name and date of passing to the yarhrzeit list in your website account, their name will be added to the list of names read ahead of Kaddish on the week of the Hebrew anniversary of their death. We will send you an email notification ahead of time. For help signing into your account or adding names, please call staff at (503) 248-4662.
Directions to the Cemetery
If using an internet map app, search for Jones Cemetery or Westside Vineyard Church. From downtown Portland, head west on Highway 26 toward Beaverton. Take the Sylvan exit and turn left to cross over the freeway. At the second light, turn left onto Humphrey Boulevard. Turn right onto Hewitt Boulevard, then take an immediate left into the entrance of the Westside Vineyard Church parking lot.
At the end of the church parking lot is the cemetery gate. Park, and then walk into the cemetery. If walking is a problem, drive through the gate and park on the driveway inside the cemetery.
Cemetery Committee
Havurah's Cemetery Committee is led by Cindy Merrill. The committee helps Havurah members purchase cemetery plots and manages other aspects of the cemetery. Every year the committee brings the Havurah community together during High Holidays to remember loved ones who have passed away and organizes an annual cemetery beautification day.
More About the Cemetery
This interview with founding member Elden Rosenthal describes how and why Havurah established the cemetery shortly after the congregation was formed and the egalitarian concepts the cemetery reflects. Dave Weil, longtime Cemetery Committee lead and plot seller, has written about the history of the cemetery here. In 2021, then graduate student Mira Hayward wrote a well-researched and very interesting paper on Jones Cemetery and Havurah Shalom Cemetery and was kind enough to share it with us.
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Upcoming Events
IP = In person only (normally at Havurah Shalom);
ZM = On Zoom/online only;
HYB = In person and online; and
ANN = In person at Havurah's Annex.
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Monday ,
NovNovember 3 , 2025Havurahnik Mahjong Group
Monday, Nov 3rd 1:00p to 4:00p
Just for Havurah members, our Mahjong Group is a fun, social activity that builds community, encouraging new friendships and cementing old ones. And while some of us may play elsewhere as well, we all agreed that restoring its place as an ongoing congregational activity will be a good fit for Havurah and those of us who play or want to learn the game. -
Monday ,
NovNovember 3 , 2025(HYB) Rosh Ḥodesh Tov! Gender-Inclusive New Moon Ritual
Monday, Nov 3rd 6:00p to 7:15p
A gender-inclusive New Moon group, learning and celebrating each Rosh Ḥodesh with ancient and contemporary ritual. Open to any and all genders, inviting each to connect with our closest heavenly body, the Moon. An introductory meeting will happen on the full moon of Elul on Wednesday, Aug. 30 outdoors—weather permitting—in North Portland. Subsequent meetings will be on or near the new moon of each month either in person in North Portland or on Zoom, depending on seasonal shifts in the weather. Attend any or all sessions. RSVP to be updated on location and other details throughout the year. -
Monday ,
NovNovember 3 , 2025(IP) Thinking About Palestine and Israel After the Destruction of Gaza [CLASS IS FULL]
Monday, Nov 3rd 7:00p to 8:30p
Learn about the historical contexts behind Oct. 7, 2023, as well as the response that has resulted in massive destruction of life and society in Gaza. Led by Joel Beinin. -
Tuesday ,
NovNovember 4 , 2025(ZM) Cohort D of Coming Home to Solidarity
Tuesday, Nov 4th 11:30a to 1:30p
What is Coming Home to Solidarity? Coming Home to Solidarity is a workshop designed to help us create a culture and community where all members freely show up as their authentic selves; where all are valued, appreciated, and have a sense of belonging. The workshop is an opportunity for white-bodied or white-identifying congregants to come together in a supportive and caring environment to reflect, learn and unlearn, heal from the ways we have been impacted by white supremacy, and start to recognize new possibilities for taking action. Havurahniks, click to learn more and RSVP. -
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NovNovember 5 , 2025(IP) Middle School
Wednesday, Nov 5th 6:30p to 8:30p
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NovNovember 5 , 2025(IP) High School
Wednesday, Nov 5th 6:30p to 8:30p
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Wednesday ,
NovNovember 5 , 2025(IP) B'nei Mitzvah Cohort
Wednesday, Nov 5th 6:30p to 8:30p
Youths being called to the Torah will build community and ask, “What does being Jewish and becoming bar, bat, or b’nei mitzvah mean to me?” Led by Rabbi Benjamin. -
Wednesday ,
NovNovember 5 , 2025(ANN) Adult B'nei Mitzvah
Wednesday, Nov 5th 7:00p to 8:15p
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Thursday ,
NovNovember 6 , 2025(IP) Watch Party at Havurah for Dayenu's Jewish Climate Action Event, "Gathering for Song & Solidarity"
Thursday, Nov 6th 5:00p to 6:00p
All are welcome. Click here to RSVP. This November 6 watch party is being hosted by HCAT (Havurah's Climate Action Team) and Havurah's Music team. The November 6 online "Gathering for Song & Solidarity" event itself has been organized by Dayenu: The Jewish Call to Climate Action. Hope you can be with us! -
Friday ,
NovNovember 7 , 2025(IP) Teen Kabbalat Shabbat
Friday, Nov 7th 6:00p to 8:00p
A special Kabbalat Shabbat for teens and their families.
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